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Changing The Way We Experience Loss & Death
This is my interpretation of a conversation between Oprah and Babyface (who had just lost his Mother) from 2013. It joyously changed the way I look at death, life and what’s possible:
When someone dies who really loves you, a parent, a child, a spouse, a friend — you can actually become HAPPIER. If you allow it, you can get lifted up with their passing and become even more joyous, successful and intimate. You can resonate higher & resonate happier. Yes, even happier than you were when your loved one was with you on the physical plane. The grief that comes with loss does not have to take you down … it can lift you up.
Why? Because the love of that person who has died is now constantly with you. Once they aren’t here anymore, their spirit is more available to you, much more so than it was when they were physical. Using Babyface as the example, he was extremely close to his Mother when she was alive, but now has an even more profound & close relationship with her since she passed. Yes, a better (albeit different) relationship than he had with her before. Babyface says he doesn’t have to fill her in on the details of his life, or explain how he’s feeling anymore — his Mom already knows everything now. She’s with him in every moment he wants her to be, she can sense how he’s feeling without him needing to explain himself or attempt to describe a complex emotion or situation. He connects with her daily, and says they are closer than ever. So their bond is actually more now … more loving, more intimate, more (dare I say) telepathic?
So whether it’s the death of the one who birthed you or a dear friend, with that death comes a monumental infusion of positive energy, if you allow it. With that loss comes positive change. These infusions can actually build you up… and surprisingly after the passing, your life can open up and become so much more. You become stronger because you’re infused with the spirit of your loved one and the two energies — yours & theirs — mix together in synergy to create a more empowered, joyous YOU. 1+1=3. This is only possible because your loved one is no longer physical.
This is the one gift, the one gem in the loss of a loved one. Knowing about this, being conscious of it, allowing it, remembering it (for yourself & others) could be crucially important during grieving.
Love to all who have lost someone they loved ….
PS: THIS is what you write about in a condolence card.
PSS: Let’s discuss whether this could apply to the loss of a beloved pet. Perhaps experienced a bit differently, but I don’t see why not.